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Do Less And Be More [REVISIT]

Episode #81

Today we get to revisit one of our most popular episodes…DO LESS + BE MORE.

In today’s face-paced world, it’s so easy to be busy, hustle hustle hustle, go go go. We even measure our success by how busy we are… how often do you tell someone you are busy for them to respond “Great, busy is good”, “I wish i could be busier”. Anyone can be busy, but it’s much harder to be productive…

In this episode, Tim shares a story of a business owner who was in hustle mode, working non-stop, living fast and hard but he was also drained and unable to appreciate his success and everything good in his life. His thoughts were telling him things like “you have to take the rough with the smooth” or “Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows”. This is something we can all relate to, phrases we were brought up hearing and have become ingrained in our psyche. Tim argues that this doesn’t have to be the way and asks why can’t we just have the good??

Life CAN be all sunshine and rainbows!!

These 20 minutes of valuable audio will help you discover how you can overcome this kind of negative mentality that can cause you to be so busy you’ll drive yourself into the ground. Tim believes that this train of thought also causes self sabotage, if you tell yourself phrases like “take the rough with the smooth”, then subconsciously you are far more likely to follow something great with something negative and not even realize.

A common theme on The Powerfulman show is that you should “be” and not “do”. Keep listening to find out how you can do less and be more, get ready to snap out of hustle mode and enjoy a much more fulfilling life.

What you will discover in this episode:

  • The Difference between being productive and busy.
  • How your business can be suffering by lies you tell yourself.
  • Actionable steps to becoming more productive in business and life.
  • How to set yourself free of old phrases that are no longer relevant.
  • How to shift your belief systems.
  • How to get closer to your goals by being productive.
  • Operating out of faith and flow not fear and force.


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Episode Transcript

Tim Matthews 0:01  

If you think you’re up on this planet to struggle, like really, you think that you came here to hustle your ass off and sacrifice your health, your happiness, your relationships in the pursuit of success. Do you believe that, like, no?

Doug Holt 0:24  

Hello everyone, and welcome to another episode of The Powerful Man show. I am your host, Doug Holt, with my co-host, Tim “The Powerful Man,” Matthews. Tim, how’s it going, Brother?

Tim Matthews 0:34  

Yeah, very well, as you’re aware. Second, run through of doing this after the connection cut-out a moment ago. So yeah. I’m doing good.

Doug Holt 0:47  

Awesome. I mean, that’s one of the things when people don’t think about it. We are a global movement, and so we have coaches and participants all over the world. So we’re constantly communicating via video via phone, with people on different continents, in different time zones, and it’s actually when you think about it, it’s miraculous that we’re able to do this. I’m grateful to have the opportunity you and I get to talk every single day. We talk pretty much every day back and forth, and what have you and today I want to talk about something that we see coming up time and time again. And I’ll kick it off and let you tell the story about unicorns and rainbows.

Tim Matthews 1:27  

Unicorns and rainbows is a story about an amazing man. So this guy, we’ve been working with him for the past six months or so, abroad. And every week he’s been bringing to The Brotherhood calls are lots of different problems with his business. Whether it’s a staffing issue, a marketing issue, a systems issue, or an optics issue. There are lots of different things that have problems if you have been one of them. And we’ve been helping him with those problems but also trying to steer in the direction of “Hey, maybe it’s not those things, what if we were to look over here?” But, as you and I are aware and as you and I have both experienced in our paths, sometimes you still see certain things at a certain time, sometimes it takes a little while. I like to learn the hard way. It would be so much easier if I did it, but I do. And it’s pretty much what this guy was doing as well. So six months on from kind of exhausted all these different business possibilities, if you will. He and I sat on a sofa at The Brotherhood event a few weeks ago. He was trying to tell me about all these different things we’ve been trying. You are even doing sleep fasting and losing different things. Now, this guy is a brilliant, brilliant guy. He’s such an action taker, and he has such a huge capacity to learn and digest and apply and go and all like. This guy impresses me every time. However, his greatest strength has also been his greatest weakness in many aspects because he experienced some huge transformation and change during The Activation Method and The Alpha Reset

But then coming out of that, because no kind of he did, stop doing the basics stops them. And as a result, the past few months have very much been in due mode. Doo, doo, doo. Hustle, hustle, hustle. Grind, grind, grind. And on that so far, sharing them with him. Look, you look. And quite honestly. Can you see the picture? You Getting into this next level in your life isn’t going to come from you doing more. It’s not about putting the fall in the accelerator and going even harder. For you, the gap right now, the leaks that you’re experiencing in your leadership, that emptiness that you’re feeling inside is all coming from you doing too much and being too little. It just wasn’t receiving or appreciating the man because he was living too fast and too hard. So over the past few weeks have been taken back to the basics through a lot of processes, the triad of transformation, and that process is within the truth of The Activation Method. And he’s seen some tremendous results. His awareness is completely shifted; he’s now, instead of being reactive to things that are going on in his life, is now being proactive, and he realizes how he’s creating them. A few weeks ago, as you’re aware, Doug, we were very clear with him. Look, you’ve been a victim, you’re playing small, and you’ve been a victim. And why you’re looking isn’t where you’re going to find the gold. So, because the past few weeks have been making some great progress. And we were on a call yesterday, and as said, “Hey, look, share with me what’s going on since you had implemented the last steps last week.” And sharing all these great wins is hard. And then he said, “But, Tim, they can all be sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns. And I’m like, “Hmm, interesting.” And I said, “Why not? What do you mean?” Is that you’ve got to have the bad to appreciate the good. You’ve got to have the rain to appreciate the sunshine. 

You’ve got to have a cold to appreciate a warm. Why do the yin and the yang Tim? So what if all you ever had was sunshine? Would you stop appreciating the sunshine? He’s like, “Well, no. I’m like, okay, so why can’t life be all rainbows, sunshine, and unicorns? Why not?” And he said, “Well, it’s like this. This look of knowing someone just something lands and use as the ship and then each and how, wow, I’m just repeating that cycle in my life. I’ll do something good, and then it has to be followed by something bad. So I’ll get my body to a certain level, and then I’ll get injured. I’ll get my business to a certain level, and then it will come down. I’ll get my relationships to a certain level, and then it will crash. The cycle of open-down, open-down, open-down because, for him, what he didn’t realize was underneath all of this amazing action is taken because he was ignoring his energy in his heart, his belief systems. Unconsciously, he was playing out this part of you must have the good followed by the bad, to get the good to be followed by the bad, and he was afraid of life being easy. He was afraid that if life was really enjoyable, it was only ever on an upward trend, and it was effortless. The need to lose his edge he was afraid it loses desire. And we see this time and time again with the men that come into the Facebook community we asked them. Now one of the questions is, “What is the biggest problem you’re struggling with right now?” And it tells us time and time and time again that it’s a business problem. Time management, work-life balance, staff, cash flow, and it’s not, and it’s just not a business problem. That’s a symptom of a deeper root cause just like this guy; getting injured or bouncing off an upper limit his business was a symptom of where he was operating from, completely. Have you been to the US, Doug? Do they have a game? You call them festivals or fun-fairs or whatever called Whack a mole.

Doug Holt 8:37  

We usually call them carnivals. But yeah, whack a mole is a game that a lot of people know.

Tim Matthews 8:42  

Cool awesome. So as well as him and I was speaking yesterday. So I look, it’s so hard not kidding almost saying his name. I was like, look, and it’s like you play whack a mole. All these problems keep coming up in your life, and what you’re doing, you’re trying to squash them as quickly as possible. Now it’s a problem in business or a problem in relationships or health or whatever, but they keep on coming up. Because you’re not addressing the root cause, which has been the energy and the belief system that has been causing you to operate because you can t next level has nothing to do with you’re working harder at all. It’s got everything to do with you doing less and being more productive instead of being busy and really in tune with inspiration, something bigger and greater than you. And as I was sharing this with him, it was just amazing to see all these light bulbs going off for him, and one of the action points that we left the call with was, only to find the evidence of this way over this coming week. For why life is meant to be our sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns. And how it is that way for you. I mean, look at Crowder’s look at the miracles that surround us seriously. I mean, looking at nature, or how it just effortlessly grows and propagates. And, if the sun were a little bit closer, we’d fry if that little bit less oxygen in the air we would suffocate. There are so many miracles. Do you think you’re up on this planet to struggle? Like really? Do you think that you came here to hustle your ass off and sacrifice your health, your happiness, your relationships in the pursuit of success? Do you believe that? Like, no, not at all. It’s a choice. You can believe that just like he was believing. And you can play it out when he can experience stress, struggle, and sacrifice. And he can get divorced. And you can play that story completely out until the day you die if you want to. But there’s another path. There’s another way as a high level of role models on that path. You, my friend, are one of them. Oh, thanks, man.

Doug Holt 11:17  

Appreciate that. Hey, guys, I wanted to interrupt this episode because I wanted to talk to you about how almost 300 men are already taking control of their lives. They’re for accessing their business revenues and are having more connected intimate sex using The Activation Method. All without sacrificing their relationships or their health. Now, this is only an 11-minute case study we put together just based on all the feedback we’ve gotten from you listeners. To get the case study, all you have to do is go over to ThePowerfulMan.com/bonus. So that’s ThePowerfulMan.com/bonus. You can get that case study right now. It’s short, and it’s right to the point; it’s going to give you actionable points that you can take right today. All right, let’s get back to the episode. For the benefit of the listeners, if anybody’s coming into this and going well, crap, that kind of sounds like me, or I’m doing something similar, which many people do, including myself, right? We all go through different evolution. What are some of the things they can do to recognize if this fits them, and what are some steps they can take.

Tim Matthews 12:33  

So a problem cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created it. I love that quote, and he can’t, so often, that’s what I used to do. And that’s what we often see the guys do. And within The Activation Method, there are three phases that the men work through. And the first phase is the truth, which is the triad of transformation. Now it isn’t easy in many aspects for me to explain the processes and the exercises you could go through. Because obviously, they’re very hands-on, they’re very in-depth, very interactive. But in essence, what I want to convey here is if you want to experience a change in your life, and what the story I had just shared with you a moment ago resonates with you, then save yourself a lot of time and energy and understand that will invite you to understand that a problem cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created it. But how can you start to shift your belief system? What are the beliefs that are causing you to be driven in the way that you are? This particular guy was very much that he witnessed growing up around what it meant to be a successful man? It was very much around what success looked like as well. Very much doo doo doo doo doo, go go, go go go. So a result, he achieved certain levels of success, but he never got above a certain point. Because that next level had nothing to do with action, it had everything to do with receiving and allowing himself to have the life he desired. And that’s where the whole concept for him of life can be easy, and then life is meant to be abundant. There’s so much abundance surrounding all of us and so many opportunities that we are blessed with every day. But to receive them and make the most of them, we get to be open to them. And by default, if you operate out of fear and force versus faith and flow, you’re going to be closed off to them; you are. And if you then try and continue to grow your business, change your marriage or do anything, in my opinion, and what I’ve seen work for hundreds of men, is you get to look at yourself first. There’s no point going outside of that parameter. Just start with the truth. Within that expression method, the truth is all about setting you free from the lies you’ve been telling yourself.

Doug Holt 15:32  

Beautifully said. Well, guys, if you’re listening to this, and any of this resonates with you, and you like I used to, didn’t even believe in unicorns and rainbows coming together, it always had to grind it out. This is something I invite you to join the free Facebook community, and there are over a thousand men in there just like yourself sharing ideas and their stories. It’s completely free; it’s our way of helping some men on-chain, but share your story. Part of this, what Tim’s talking about this truth is sharing your story with others. So you can set them free, as well.

Tim Matthews 16:09  

Yeah, it’s a great community to so many men that have committed to a certain way of living. They know they are capable of so much more. And they also know that they are not going to achieve that by doing what they’ve been doing. So, fine. If you keep on doing what you’ve been doing, you’re going to keep on getting what you’ve already got, which is how it is. So yeah, I love again, like Doug. I’d love for you to join us there and join the conversation. The podcast archives are there, we’ve got all the coaches in there, we’ve got past men that have been through The Activation Method, The Alpha Reset current guy, we’ve got all sorts of support in there for you if you want to join a conversation that is going to support you in diving into this further. Because I wish I could do wish I could give you more right now than just saying, “Hey, now look at the energy in the space that you’re operating from.” But the reality is usually no, we see this time and time again, look at within The Activation Method and that The Alpha Reset, those beliefs and those stories that swirl around your mind as to what it means to be successful, and what you must do and all the rest of it. They are so often entangled with so many suppressed emotions. 

And often, those emotions are sadness, anger, guilt, and shame. The guilt and the shame come from often the men looking to everybody else. They’ve got the ideal lifestyle, they’ve got the business, they’ve got the marriage, they’ve got the holidays, we’ve got the homes, you’ve got the money. But behind closed doors, clients feel like shit for being very disappointed, very alone, and often they feel quite weak because of these feelings. So it’s so important for you if you want to set yourself free of this and take your life to that next level that you also dive into those as well in a space whereby you can be led through some processes that are going to support you to express those emotions that you’ve suppressed healthily; in a manner that is going to spur you on and be used as a platform for them to see a great man that you are. I believe that you’re the guy or even the woman, but I speak to the man right now. Listening to this, you already are a powerful man; you are. And you don’t need to add anything more. It’s just a case of being taken away. It’s kind of like Michelangelo chipping away at the statue of David. He there. You’re already there to chip away at those beliefs and emotions you’ve held on to that concept. And that’s not weak. It’s not scary, and it can feel like that for sure. But we’re ensuring the process is so much easier than you think.

Doug Holt 19:40  

Well said, well said. Well, on that note, guys, we’re going to wrap up this episode, and we look forward to seeing you for our next episode. Of course, if you have any suggestions on topics, please let us know, and as always, you can leave us a rating on your favorite show or place that you’re listening to this podcast or watching on YouTube. We greatly appreciate it.