Brother, do you ever feel like something is missing in your life?
Too often life can become too rigid.
Patterns set in and before you know it your life is made up of the same, mundane routine, day in, day out.
At one time, routines served you, but right now they’re not.
There’s no spontaneity, and guess what?
This mirrors the lack of spontaneity in the bedroom and in the boardroom.
You eat at the same places, order the same thing and leave having had the same or conversation you always have.
Life is FLAT.
Everything you’ve achieved and everything you have just isn’t enough anymore.
And the worse part, to everyone else you look like you’ve got the dream life…
…the business, the money, the freedom, the family, the home, the holidays but none of these things have the same meaning they used to.
Sure, your family does, but none of the others do.
Happiness comes and goes in fleeting moments.
Something is missing and you can’t quite put your finger on what it is.
“Is this what life is all about?”
“Is this as good as it gets”
For the past 10, 20 or even 30 years you’ve busted your ass to get yourself into a position where you don’t need to worry about money like you used to and this is what you’re left with.
You hear it everywhere, so it crosses your mind:
“Am I depressed? I can’t be depressed, I never thought I’d end up here. Surely, I’m not depressed”
Where has the spark gone?
The good news is, the spark hasn’t gone anywhere.
It’s still there.
The trouble is, it’s dying out because you’ve not breathed life into it.
It’s starved of oxygen.
I’m about to share with you 3 Shifts you can make TODAY to breathe life into your flame and get it burning brightly again, because brother, you deserve it.
Recently a friend of mine said to me:
‘Tim, I’ve done the whole ‘make more money’ thing – been there, done that.
What I’ve come to realize is that the true mark of success is if I was to die and come back I’d be excited to live the same life all over again’.
SHIFT #1: Understand Fulfilment vs. Achievement
As a man, it’s important to challenge yourself physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
It’s where you’re going to expand your capacity to provide and protect.
But here’s the caveat…
…when you’re challenging yourself it’s usually in the direction of achieving something so you can become better.
Said another way, to grow there’s gotta be an outcome, you’re doing it for a reason and over time it can easily become an obligation, especially if it’s towards something you’ve set your mind on achieving.
Fulfilment is an art, not an action
It’s a state
You cannot be fulfilled be achieving the external.
Fulfilment comes from within, from the simple things.
Like going for an evening stroll with your partner whilst taking in the sunset.
You both sit on a bench watching the world go by as the sunsets.
Laughing, joking, playing.
Time passes you by without a care in the world, nothing to do, nowhere to be.
You look into her eyes, she smiles, and you feel a deep sense of appreciation that she’s by your side.
It’s a state, not a commodity.
SHIFT #2: Play
Play by definition is:
“To engage in activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose”
Often men don’t because they don’t want to feel like they’re wasting time and time is money, right?
They prioritise making money over playing.
What I’ve come to realise about myself (and the men we work with) is that when I play more, I make more.
My creativity opens up, I’m more inspired, I have more energy, I’m happier and I make bigger decisions easier.
Because my happiness doesn’t hinge on making more money.
My identity isn’t my business.
Listen, there are tons of ways to make money, money is everywhere, it’s easy.
But, if you’re squeezing the last drop of life out of yourself everyday to make more money then you’re making it hard for yourself.
You’re trying to create abundance out of scarcity, it ain’t gonna work.
Or, it will, but you’ll see slow progress and it’ll be HARD.
You’re in contradiction with yourself – you want to create money so you can have all these great things in your life but you’re coming at it with opposing energy.
You could have the feelings TODAY that you’re waiting to experience in the future.
If you want to grow your business then take more time off to live your life, and not only that, live a life you LOVE.
I’m not saying be childish, there’s a difference.
Being childlike means living life with excitement, curiosity, charisma (all the things women LOVE by the way).
Whereas being childish means having tantrums, stomping your feet and not being able to communicate how you feel.
There’s a BIG difference.
The reality is, as men, we’re all BIG kids.
Whenever we host a retreat for the men in The Brotherhood we make sure that we have a lot of activities for them to do – from games in the pool, badminton on the lawn, quad biking in the desert, cooking class, zip lining. As well as giving them tons of learning.
Everytime, they leave feeling refreshed, light, clear and ready to take their business, their relationship and their health to the next level.
We’ve been fed a web of lies that you’ve gotta grind it out, of course, you can choose that way.
But, there’s another way, another path.
In The Powerful Man we have a saying “One Destination, Two Paths”.
Both paths lead to the same place but have very different journey’s. You can choose the path of struggle and arrive at your destination beaten, battered and bruised, or you can choose the path of The Powerful Man and arrive at the same destination with a smile on your face having LOVED the journey.
The reality is, you’re always going to be on the journey, the journey IS the destination so you may as well learn to enjoy it otherwise you’re forever going to be torturing yourself.
Consider the ROI when you’re in a great place…
How does this change the intimacy, fun and sex you have with your partner?
How does this change how much money you make?
How does this affect your health?
When you play, there is no agenda – it’s different to challenging yourself so you can grow.
Sure, you’ll grow anyway, but that isn’t the focus,
The focus is to PLAY.
Get out of your head, have reckless abandon, be curious, jump in puddles with your favorite trainers on, color outside the lines, break the rules.
And the best bit, usually the only thing it takes to play is to give your inner child a voice.
You don’t have to travel across the world, spend thousands to join the country club or wait until you’re in great shape.
You can play today.
SHIFT #3: Be flexible with yourself
A big part of injecting more fun and fulfilment into your life is listening to your inner voice.
One of the men was telling the story how since The Alpha Reset he hasn’t worn a suit into the office because he didn’t want to.
Instead, he’s been wearing his jeans, t shirt, cap on backwards and flip flops.
Has his business crashed because he isn’t wearing a suit?
Have people taken him less seriously?
No and no.
In fact, his company is a much happier place to work and productivity has gone up.
There’s an exclusive club within The Brotherhood called “The 8 Hour Club”.
The guys in there work less than 8 hours a week in their business, and guess what?
Most of these guys graduate into this club by accident.
They stop doing what they think they SHOULD do or HAVE to do and instead do what they WANT to do.
Usually this means they work less, have more time off and let their staff run things.
Does the business burn down?
Nope, it usually grows and they’re happier.
I’m not suggesting starting here, these men have been through a proven process to help them get to this point, start small.
Where do you want to work from today? Maybe your favorite coffee shop instead of the office.
What do you want to wear? Maybe something comfortable instead of your suit, maybe you say no to the tie.
What do you want to do tonight?
You get the picture…
Brother, here’s the reality…
You are already a POWERFUL MAN.
You’ve just forgotten how to be one in a world where men have been left behind.
It’s time to redefine what success means to you so you can live a life you love with the people you love and FINALLY feel fulfilled…
…WITHOUT worrying about work or feeling like you don’t deserve it.
Because you do!
Here’s to better sex, bigger profits and you finding fulfilment.
Founder, The Powerful Man
Last update of the article: 07/07/2020