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Do Less & Be More

Episode #18

In today’s face-paced world, it’s so easy to be busy, hustle hustle hustle, go go go. We even measure our success by how busy we are… how often do you tell someone you are busy for them to respond “Great, busy is good”, “I wish I could be busier”. Anyone can be busy, but it’s much harder to be productive…

In this episode Tim shares a story of a business owner who was in hustle mode, working non-stop, living fast and hard but he was also drained and unable to appreciate his success and everything good in his life. His thoughts were telling him things like “you have to take the rough with the smooth” or “Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows”. This is something we can all relate to, phrases we were brought up hearing, and have become ingrained in our psyche. Tim argues that this doesn’t have to be the way and asks why can’t we just have the good??

Life CAN be all sunshine and rainbows!!

These 20 minutes of valuable audio will help you discover how you can overcome this kind of negative mentality that can cause you to be so busy you’ll drive yourself into the ground. Tim believes that this train of thought also causes self-sabotage if you tell yourself phrases like “take the rough with the smooth”, then subconsciously you are far more likely to follow something great with something negative and not even realize.

A common theme on The Powerfulman show is that you should “be” and not “do”. Keep listening to find out how you can do less and be more, get ready to snap out of hustle mode, and enjoy a much more fulfilling life.

What you will discover in this episode:

    • The difference between being productive and busy.
    • How your business can be suffering by lies you tell yourself.
    • Actionable steps to becoming more productive in business and life.
    • How to set yourself free of old phrases that are no longer relevant.
    • How to shift your belief systems.
    • How to get closer to your goals by being productive.
    • Operating out of faith and flow not fear and force.


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Episode Transcript

Tim Matthews  0:01  

Do you think you’re on this planet to struggle like an alien? Do you think you came here to hustle your ass off and sacrifice your health, happiness, and relationships in the pursuit of success? Do you believe that? Like, no.

Doug Holt  0:24  

Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of The Powerful Man Show. I am your host, Doug Holt, with my co-host, Tim, “The Powerful Man” Matthews. Tim, how’s it going, brother?

Tim Matthews  0:34  

Yeah, very well, as you’re aware, the second run-through of doing this after the connection cut a moment ago. I’m doing good.

Doug Holt  0:47  

Awesome. That’s one of the things when people don’t think about it, and we are a global movement. So we have coaches and participants all over the world. So we’re constantly communicating via video, via phone, with people in different continents and different time zones. And it’s actually when you think about it, and, miraculously, we’re able to do this. I’m grateful to have the opportunity you and I get to talk every single day. We talk pretty much every day back and forth, and what have you. Today, I want to talk about something that we see coming up time and time again. And I’ll kick it off and let you tell the story about unicorns and rainbows.

Tim Matthews  1:27  

Unicorns and rainbows. This is a story about an amazing man. This guy you know who he is, Doug, we’ve been working with him for the past six months or so, in The Brotherhood. Every week he’s been bringing to The Brotherhood calls many different problems with his business, whether it’s a staffing issue, whether it’s a marketing issue, a systems issue, or an optics issue. There’s a lot of different things that have problems if you will have been with them. We’ve been helping him with those problems but also been trying to steer in the direction of “Hey, you know, maybe it’s not those things, what if we were to look over here,” but as you and I are aware, and as you and I have both experienced in our paths sometimes you still see certain things at a certain time to do sometimes it takes a little while, I know for me, I like to learn the hard way. But it’s so much easier if I did it, but I do, and it’s pretty much what this guy was doing as well. So anyway, six months on from kind of exhausted all these different business possibilities if you will. He and I sat on a sofa at The Brotherhood event a few weeks ago. He was trying to tell me about all these different things I’ve been trying even doing sleep fasting and lots of different things now these guys are the brilliant guy such an action taker has such a huge capacity to learn and digest and apply and go. This guy impresses me every time; however, he’s grateful grace strength has also been his greatest weakness in many respects because he experienced some huge transformation and change during The Activation Method and The Alpha Reset

But then coming out of that he kind of a dead stop doing the basics is stopped them and as a result, the past few months has very much been in Do mode, do, do, do, hustle, hustle, hustle, grind grind, grind, and we were sharing with him “Look, you can knock it, quite honestly. Can you see the pitch, you know, you get to this next level in your life that doesn’t come from you doing more. It’s not about putting the fall in the accelerator and going even harder for you, the gap right now, the leaks you’re experiencing in your leadership, that emptiness that you feel inside is all coming from you doing too much and being too little. It just wasn’t receiving or appreciating the man he is because he is living too fast and too hard. So over the past few weeks, I have been taken back to the basics through a lot of processes, you know, the triad of transformation and processes within The Activation Method‘s truth. And he’s seen some tremendous results. His awareness has completely shifted. instead of being reactive to things that are going on in his life, is now being proactive, and he realizes how he’s creating them. if you weeks ago, as you’re aware, Doug, we were very clear with him, “Look, you’ve been a victim, quite honestly, you playing small and you’ve been a victim and the way where you’re looking isn’t where you’re gonna find the gold.” So, as I said, the past few weeks have been making some great progress. And we were on a call yesterday. And I was saying, “Hey, look, come on, share with me what’s going on, since you had implemented the last steps last week?”. He shared all these great wins that he had. Then he said, “but you know, Tim, it can’t all be sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns.” And I’m like, “Huh?, interesting.” And I said, “why not? What do you mean?” He said, “Well, you know, you’ve got to have the bad to appreciate the good. You’ve got to have the rain to appreciate the sunshine. You’ve got to have the goal to appreciate winning. The yin and the yang Tim”. I am like, “Okay, so what if all you ever had was sunshine? Would you stop appreciating the sunshine?” he’s like, “Well, No” and I am like “Okay? So why can’t life be all Rainbows, sunshine, and unicorns? Why not?” And he said, Well, There’s this look of knowing someone just something lands. 

He’s like, “shit!” and He is like, “wow, I’m just repeating that cycle my life, I’ll do something good. And then it has to be followed by something bad. So I’ll get my body to a certain level. And then I’ll get injured, and I’ll get my business to a certain level. And then it’ll come down, and I’ll get my relationships to a certain level. And then it’ll crash” the cycle of up and down, up and down, up and down because for him, what he didn’t realize was underneath all of this amazing action that is taken because he was ignoring his energy and his belief systems. Unconsciously he was playing out this kind of, you must have the good followed by the bad to get the good to be followed by the bad, and he was afraid of life being easy. He was afraid that if life was really enjoyable, it was only ever on an upward trend, and it was effortless. Then he loses the edge. He was afraid he would lose his desire, and we see this time and time again with the men that come into the Facebook community. We ask them one of the questions: What is the biggest problem you struggle with right now? And they tell us time and time and time again that it’s a business problem, time management, work-life balance stuff, cash flow, and it’s not. it’s just not a business problem; that’s a symptom of a deeper root cause just like this guy, him getting injured or bouncing up off an upper limit, his business was a symptom of where he was operating from completely. a view in the US stock Do they have a game that I think you call them festivals or fairs or whatever. it is called Whack-A-Mole

Doug Holt  8:37  

They do, we call them carnivals, usually, but yeah, whack a mole is a game that a lot of people know. 

Tim Matthews  8:42  

Cool, awesome. He and I were speaking yesterday. So I look at it, I almost say his name. I look like you play Whack-A-Mole, all these problems keep coming up in your life, and what are you doing trying to squash them as quickly as possible boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. It’s a business problem or a problem in relationships or health or whatever, but they keep on coming up. Because you’re not addressing the root cause, which has been the energy and the belief system that has been causing you to operate. Because you get to the next level has nothing to do with you working harder at all. It’s got everything to do with you doing less and being more productive instead of being busy. Being really in tune with inspiration, something bigger and greater than you. And then as I was sharing this with him, it’s just amazing to see all these light bulbs going off for him. One of the action points that we left the call with was finding the evidence over this coming week for why life is meant to be all Sunshine, sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns. How it is that way for you, I mean, look around us, and look at the miracles that surround us seriously. I mean, look at nature and how it just effortlessly grows and propagates. If the sun were a little bit closer, we’d fry; if that little bit less oxygen, the air would suffocate. There are so many miracles if you think you’re up on this planet to struggle, like really? Do you think that you came here to hustle us off and sacrifice your health, your happiness, your relationships in the pursuit of success? Do you believe that? Like, no, not all, it’s a choice. You can believe that just like he was believing. And you can play out when you can experience stress, struggle, and sacrifice, and you can kind of get divorced. You can play that story completely out until the day you die if you want to. But there’s another path. There’s another way as a hell of role models on that path too. You, my friend, be one of them.

Doug Holt  11:16  

Oh, thanks, man. Appreciate that.

Hey, guys, I wanted to interrupt this episode because I wanted to talk to you about how almost 300 men are already taking control of their lives. They’re 4X their business revenues, and they’re having more connected intimate sex using The Activation Method, all without sacrificing their relationships or their health. Now, this is only an 11-minute case study we put together just based on all the feedback we’ve gotten from the listeners. To get the case study, all you have to do is go over to https://www.thepowerfulman.com/bonus/. So that’s https://www.thepowerfulman.com/bonus/, you can get that case study right now. It’s short, and it’s right to the point it’s going to give you actionable points that you can take, right today. All right, let’s get back to the episode. 

For the listeners’ benefit, if anybody is coming into this and going well, crap, that kind of sounds like me, or I’m doing something similar, which many people do, including myself, right? We all go through different evolutions; some of the things are that they can do one to recognize if this does fit with them, and two, what are some steps they can take.

Tim Matthews  12:36  

“A problem cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created it” I love that quote; you just can’t. So often, that’s what I used to do. And that’s what we often see the guys do. In the Activation Method, there are three phases that the men went through. The first phase is the truth in which is the triad of transformation; now, it is pretty difficult in a lot to expect me to explain the processes and the exercises you could go through. They’re very hands-on; they’re very in-depth, very interactive, and but in essence, what one wants to convey here is if you want to experience a change in your life. The story I had just shared with you a moment ago resonates with you, then saves yourself a lot of time and energy. And understand that, well, I invite you to understand that a problem cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created it. But how can you start to shift your belief system? What are the beliefs that are causing you to be driven in the way you are, for this particular guy was very much what he witnessed growing up around what it meant to be a successful man? And it was very much around what success looked like as well. Very much do, do, go, go,  go, go, go, go. So as a result, he achieved certain success levels, but he never got above a certain point. Because that extra next level had nothing to do with action. Instead, it was everything to do with receiving and allowing himself to have the desired life. And that’s where the whole concept for him of life can be easy. Life is meant to be abundant, and there’s so much abundance that surrounds all of us and so many opportunities that we are blessed with every day. But for us to receive them and make the most of them, we get to be open to them. By default, if you are operating out of fear and force versus faith and flow, if you’re going to be closed off to them, you are. And if you’re then trying to continue to grow your business, or change your marriage or do anything, in my opinion, and what I’ve seen work for hundreds of men is you get to look at you first, there’s no point going outside of that parameter. To start with, you start with the truth. And within The Activation Method, the truth is all about setting you free from the lies you’ve been telling yourself.

Doug Holt  15:32  

Beautifully said. Well, guys, if you’re listening to this, and any of this resonates with you, and you, like I used to, didn’t even believe in unicorns and rainbows coming together, it always had to grind it out. I invite you to join the free Facebook community; there are over 1000 men in there just like yourself, sharing ideas and their stories. It’s completely free; it’s our way of helping some men on-chain, but share your story. Part of this with Tim is talking about this truth is sharing your story with others. So you can set them free, as well.

Tim Matthews  16:09  

Yes, it’s a great community. There are so many men in there that are committed to a certain way of living. Then they know they’re capable of so much more. They also know that they will not achieve that by doing what they’ve been doing so far. If you keep on doing what you’ve been doing, you’re going to keep on getting what you’ve already got, is how it is. So yeah, Doug, I’d love for you to join us in there and join the conversation, the podcast archives are there, we’ve got all the coaches in there, we’ve got past men who have been through The Activation Method and The Alpha Reset. The current guy got all sorts of support in there for you if you want to join a conversation that will support you in diving into this further. Because, you know, I wish I could do wish I could give you more right now than just saying, Hey, you know, look at the energy in the space that you’re operating from. But the reality is that usually no, we see this time and time again, within The Activation Method, and at The Alpha Reset. Those beliefs and those stories that swirl around your mind as to you know what it means to be successful, and what you must do, and all the rest of it are so often entangled with so many suppressed emotions. And often those emotions, sadness, and anger, guilt, and shame. The guilt and the shame come from often the men looking to everybody else, I’ve got the ideal lifestyle, they’ve got the business, they’ve got the marriage, they’ve got the holidays, they’ve got the homes, they’ve got the money but behind closed doors they feel like shit, for feeling very disappointed, very alone. Often they feel quite weak as well because of these feelings. So it is so important for you if you want to set yourself free of this. Take your life to that next level, that you also dive into those as well in a space whereby you can be led through some processes that will support you to express those emotions that you’ve suppressed healthily. In a manner that is going to spur you on and be used as a platform for them to see the great man that you are. I do believe that you’re the guy or even the woman, but I speak to the man right now, listening to this, you already are a powerful man, you are. You don’t need to add anything more. It’s just a case of taking away it’s kind of like Michelangelo chipping away at The Statue of David, you’re there, you’re already there to chip away at those beliefs and emotions that you’ve held on that don’t serve you. And that’s not weak. It’s not scary, and it can feel like that for sure. But when you’re in, the process is so much easier than you think.

Doug Holt  19:40  

Oh, well said, Well said. Well, on that note, guys, we’re going to wrap up this episode, and we look forward to seeing you for our next episode. Of course, if you have any suggestions on topics, please let us know. And as always, you can leave us a rating on your favorite show or place that you’re listening to this podcast or watching on YouTube. We greatly appreciate it.