Do you ever feel like “talking about it” is really not the solution?
With all the advice out there, the therapy, the counseling even books telling you COMMUNICATION is key to fixing your relationship.
It’s hard to know what to do.
Especially when talking about it just seems to make you drift even further apart.
Now, I don’t know how it is for you.
But whenever I’d try and talk to Amelia about any problems we were facing
It typically ended up with arguments and me sleeping on the sofa.
So why does this happen?
Well, think of it like this…
If you’ve ever got your car stuck in the snow…
…and you hit that accelerator pedal trying to force your way out.
What typically happens?
I know for me, I’d find myself digging myself deeper into the snow and getting even more stuck
No matter how hard I try and hit that accelerator pedal I’d get a little movement but eventually, I’d end up in a worse position than when I started.
And I saw that same pattern in my relationship when I “talked about it”
So how do we improve your relationship without talking about it…
Well, let’s go back to the car in the snow example.
If you want to get your car out of the snow you need traction
Nothing big but just a small connection
So you might cut down some branches, get them under your tires to create just a tiny bit of traction so you can get moving forward and out of the hole.
Consider that this same principle is true in relationships.
If you wanna get back on the road with your marriage and relationship
No amount of hitting that accelerator pedal will help
Instead, it’s about forming that small connection…
…so you can get some traction and get yourself out of the snow and back on the road.
And it doesn’t have to be anything groundbreaking or anything
Just something simple
It could be sending her a text letting her know something you appreciate about her
(this always worked great if Amelia and I were stuck in the snow)
…or asking her out for coffee
…or just something fun you can do together.
Now I don’t know exactly where you’re at with your relationship and marriage
Maybe you’re cruising down route 66 with the roof down and in top gear.
But if you’re feeling like it’s time to “get out of the snow” and you’d rather take a kick in the balls than “talk about problems”
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