Episode #994
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In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of the latest Rising event—a next-level experience built for men who’ve already done the foundational work and are now asking, What’s next?
You’ll hear how breakthroughs happened not because of a crisis, but because the guys leaned into the discomfort of growth—even when things were already going well. From coaches stepping up with no ego, to micro-adjustments that unlocked massive shifts, this conversation reveals what’s really possible when you stop settling for “good enough.”
We talk about how real transformation comes from precision, presence, and the courage to go deeper—not just wider. And why waiting until things fall apart is the slowest path to where you really want to go.
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Transcription
Arthur 0:00
Yeah, I look at the Reset like healing the past, and the Rising is almost like your journey forward for the future—like you’re trying to find your path, right? And I came in much the same. I was like, I don’t know, I guess I’m gonna find my next step. That’s what I was saying to myself, I’m gonna find out my next step. I have no idea. And I found it—but I didn’t know how would I know? I just thought I was gonna go along. And, you know, I’m just doing pretty good coming into this, you know, the Rising when I did it, and, man, I found it.
Tim Matthews 0:39
Hey guys, welcome to another episode of The Powerful Man Show. I’m your host, Tim Matthews, with two incredible guests today—Mr. Magoo and The Gift. That’s a curse… sounds like a little comedy sketch: Mr. Magoo and The Gift.
So, well, I think it’d be good to dive into—I’m really curious, from your perspective, Andrew, what it’s been like for you volunteering at this. I mean, I just want to say from the get-go, you’ve been incredible. You have really contributed to making this Rising a huge success.
Obviously, we’ve heard the feedback from the guys. The guys are raving about it—the incredible work that you did with the contribution committee, getting the Dirty Dozen to donate the other mules and side-by-sides—that just made the event so much better.
Then the work you’ve done in the kitchen for the men, for the coaches, the insights you’ve provided in the coaches huddle—I could go on and on. And selfishly, I’ve loved spending time with you. It’s been great to spend, what, 10 days or so?
Gift 1:52
It’s great to spend time with you, too. I mean him, not so much.
Tim Matthews 1:59
I’ll see where this goes. I’m curious from your perspective, because you’ve been on the other side this time, right?you’ve been to The Alpha Reset, you’ve been to The Brotherhood events, you’ve been to IC events, but you’ve never been on this side of the fence.
Gift 2:00
Yeah, and it’s crazy, because I don’t think you realize how much work goes into it. I mean, we know you guys are busy doing things, but it’s a lot—a lot of work. It’s constant. And you see, starting in the morning, and, you know, well, prepping food or whatever—things like that—but all the meetings, all the planning around it…
And, you know, it just—nobody thinks it goes off like this, but the amount of work—and it’s great. And, you know, listen, I personally—listen, I personally enjoyed the huddles and just, like, diving in. And, you know, listen, the planning part of it, of understanding what our tasks were for the day—everything was very organized.
Even though it may seem a little chaotic, and sometimes it was just so much to do, but it was organized. And then coming up, and then talking about the guys and where they need to go and who needs to be nudged—it was phenomenal. You know?
I mean, I expected that. I wanted to be here. And then just being there when they were in their sessions and things—I mean, the processes were just phenomenal to see on the other side of it and just watch and observe. It was awesome all around. And they went there. I mean, you know that—they went there. From the beginning, it was cool. Not a big surprise, because the guys—the caliber of men—was huge, you know? I mean, all the guys in the group.
Speaker 1 2:13
But so it was a real relief, though, from a coaching perspective, right? Because obviously we know the process works, but how is it going to work this time, right? So as guys are moving through it, and we’re talking about them, and we care so much for them, right?
And, you know, we can see the blind spots. And for me, at least, I’m always a little relieved when the event’s over. I’m like, yes—right? Because there’s so much riding on it. These guys have left families, businesses, flown across the world.
They’re in real need of getting love, help, and support. And it means a lot to me, right? It means a lot to you guys as well. So, yeah, once we’ve gotten the result—I mean, I just feel relieved, quite frankly.
Arthur 4:19
Yeah. And it’s amazing as well to watch these guys come in. And, you know, we’ve coached with most of them for a while, and they’re all on different journeys, of course.
So they all arrive at different parts of their journey, going through similar processes. And so, as you said, like we never know where they might pop, or what’s going to affect them, what’s going to work for them—but to be at the side of the event and having seen everyone shift, pretty much—that’s been really awesome and rewarding.
Tim Matthews 4:54
Really is. I loved last night as well. Just sitting around—it was good. That was hilarious.
Yes—yeah, because we filmed some of the processes, right? Because we’re building out the SOP for all the rest of the team so they can take it and run with it. And it was just funny to go back and look at some of those videos with the guys—and the jokes, the laughter—it was just… oh my God, I’m a kid again.
Gift 5:21
You know, one of the other things I appreciated, too, is that Grant and I, having had gone through it, you know, when we do give some feedback and say, “Hey, we really thought that this was good,” like you guys shifted.
And you just—“Oh really?”—and shifted the process. You weren’t locked in. Nobody was locked in by ego or saying, “No, this is what we’re doing, and that’s it.” It was just, “Oh, maybe there’s a better way.” And it evolved.
A couple of the processes evolved—and I think for the better. It was really cool to watch that happen in real time. You know?
Tim Matthews 5:47
Yeah, it was golden, right? Having these guys who’d been through the process in the programming conversations with us, being able to say, “I think you should leave that one in,” “Yeah, I should do this.” That was really useful—really.
Andrew 6:00
You’re probably going to get some feedback from the other guys—from the other guys too. You give them a little time to let it settle in, right? I mean, listen, at the end of the day, it’s all about making it better and better, right? I had an amazing experience in my Rising, but this—this is just going to shift just a little more, and you fine-tune. And you might have to fine-tune for every different group you get—you know, who knows how they’re going to react to it, right?
Tim Matthews 6:20
Yeah. Well, we always say 80% science, 20% art, right? It’s typically what it is. Because you’re right—with every group, there’s a different dynamic, yeah, different number of people. People respond differently to different processes at different times and all that kind of stuff.
So I think—I guess where the strengths of the—I think there are two key strengths that stand out to me from our coaching team in general, but specifically the team that was here: our ability to be flexible, and no ego. There’s no ego, right?
There was no, “Oh, it’s about me. It’s my thing.” Nobody had that. And, you know, we’re all very experienced coaches between us. Man, between us we must have 60 years of coaching experience—like that’s a lot of experience. And not just general coaching experience—we’ve got 60 years plus, probably more than 60 years in fact, of coaching men.
Yet to be in that room without any ego—and just, to your point, Andrew, being in the conversation about what’s best for the men, and how can we best get them there, and being able to be flexible with it—that, for me…
Well, obviously, yesterday I said that was one of my magic moments, right? It really was. It was just magical. It’s a great environment to be in.
Gift 7:51
And another thing that—you know, the delegation of who’s running what process—you know, you could have said, “All right, well, Mark, you got this one—Mark Smith, Mark Hainsworth,” or throw it to Arthur, and they didn’t know they were running.
And each one brings a different energy there. You know, all the coaches are excellent, and they’re different in the ways they handle things. It was really cool to see someone just not know they were running the process and step in and—boom—knock it out of the park. You know, it was awesome. You know?you too, Arthur.
Arthur 8:22
And it’s amazing to think this is just the second time we delivered it? And how different this one—even though the process has pretty much stayed the same—yeah, we might have moved things a little bit, but all the main processes are still the main processes.
But how different this one was to the first one—how much smoother, how much better. The tweaking helped. And yeah, it was just a lot more fun, obviously, because we had a bigger team. And thanks to you guys as well, you know?
Andrew 8:53
I keep saying—I can’t imagine how you guys did it last time. It’s so much to do. Just so much.
Tim Matthews 8:57
Looking back, I don’t know how. Last time, Doug was part of the coaching team, but he wasn’t obviously here during the day because he needed to look after the kids, right? So really there were three main people on the ground between us having to do the entire thing.
Arthur 9:15
Set up, the check-in, the coaching, the food…
Tim Matthews 9:20
Programming, logistics, the everything.
Gift 9:22
Yeah, the logistics of that—wow. What a difference, right? You pick up and drop those—five, ten minutes, now you’re done. Before, it could be an hour.
Tim Matthews 9:24
I mean, it’s great because we’ve got the macro dialed in. Like, we know who this is for. It’s not a revision of The Alpha Reset. It’s definitely a step up. That’s why we don’t allow anybody to come into it until they’ve been to a Reset.
And really, I think it’s—not only do they have to have been to a The Alpha Reset—they need to have had a period of integration after the Reset. Six months, maybe twelve, whatever. Depends on the person, to really solidify the changes from the Reset.
Yeah, after which I think they become eligible for tattoo—yeah. I know there are ideas thrown out there that they really need to have gone to a The Brotherhood event as well, just for that community and—well, Brotherhood.
But because they’ve done that pre-work, essentially we’ve been working with them, and this is what came up with some of the guys in their interviews and podcasts. That then enables us to do the Rising, because there’s a lot more subtleties and nuances to the program and the delivery that wouldn’t land for somebody that hadn’t gone through the Tower and so on.
But it’s kind of that level. As you move up—there’s levels to the game, right? As you move up, it’s often the one-degree shifts that create all the difference.
And because we’ve got the macro sorted out for the event, it enables us to make these tiny calls—well, not tiny calls, because they’re kind of big calls—but it enables us to make them.
And although it might just be removing a process or delivering it slightly differently or whatever—it can produce an exponential result, right?
Because of the level at which the guys are already at—we apply the one-degree shifts, little pieces of magic and the artistry to it—it just puts them on a completely different trajectory.
Gift 11:29
Yeah, those little tweaks are—they’re huge—and the guys responded so well to everything. It was just—yeah.
Tim Matthews 11:34
And they’re the things you can’t preempt, be fine. You know? They only come from being able to have 60, 70, 80 years combined experience working with men in the field—to know the people so well, to know the journey so well—that you’re able to be like, that little tweak, that little tweak. You can’t—you can’t do that beforehand.
You can have an idea of the macro journey and what we want to do and all that kind of stuff—and where we want to take the guys—and this is why, again, one of my magic moments: a team. But then to have the team come in, without ego, with flexibility, and apply their experience—and that, honestly, that greatness—to be able to give those tweaks, it’s just remarkable.
Gift 12:21
Another thing that was really impressive to me is how all of you coaches really know the guys, even if you’re not working with them one-on-one. It was just like hearing you go around—I’m like, “Well, my experience was…” I’m like, wow.
You know, you can have a guy who’s in your pack, who you know better than anyone else, but some other people still have feedback from—maybe whether it was a Brotherhood retreat or it’s just being on calls or whatever it is, right? And it all blended in and added to the value of it, you know, when you were diving in and trying to figure out blind spots and things.
Tim Matthews 12:50
Yeah, I mean, look—we care about you guys. We speak a lot about you guys.
Gift 12:55
I know. I’m well aware.
Arthur 12:56
But it also comes down to what we discussed during the retreating, in our prep—being really present to the man in front of you, right? This whole thing about presence—you know, we teach it, we try and embody it to the best of our ability.
But even with our experience, with all the knowledge we have, it always usually comes down to, “Okay, what does this guy need right now?” From our perspective of being in presence with him, right?
You can feel the other guy, you know, you can get a better picture. So historical information is definitely useful, but what’s coming up right now—you’ve got to be open to that so you can deal with that right now.
Because a lot of stuff that might have come up this week wasn’t necessarily in the background, right? I mean, you know—it’s not stuff that might have been worked on before. Sure, it’s new stuff. You know, so just being present to what’s happening.
And, I mean, that’s a lesson to take on into life for everyone listening as well. The more present you can be—you know, without having preconceived ideas of how to respond and what to do and what to say—the more you can pick up in that moment.
Gift 14:05
Yeah, I really liked watching in real time how—you know—someone, you’re working with someone, or it could be Arthur working with somebody, and all of a sudden, you give the guy a minute, he says something, and then see Hainsworth’s face go, “Hmm…” and he’ll ask a question.
Because, you know, everyone’s got a different style and a different way to reach out. And it was just really cool watching it happen. Because you all have moments of like, “I got this one,” and off you go. And the other coach never gets upset. It’s not—there’s no ego. It’s just like, “Oh yep, go with it. You have the angle. Now get it.”
Tim Matthews 14:36
What surprised you the most about this Rising?
Arthur 14:39
I just think how—how well it went, only based on my previous, our previous experience of the first one. You know, it just flowed beautifully. So that—that was amazing.
I think what surprised me was a couple of the guys—what, you know—the breakthroughs that they had.
Gift 14:57
Yeah, I would say just the openness from the beginning. I think—they were just—me being on the other side of it, I feel like they were ten steps ahead of us all the time. It was like, you know, Day Zero, Day One—I’m like, wow, they’re doing really good.
And I don’t know why that—ten steps ahead of your group—yeah. They were just more open. And it just seemed like they were always ahead. And maybe—that’s just wrong, maybe it’s not right—but it felt like it. I think they were doing really, really well.
Tim Matthews 15:22
They were. I mean, every group is different, right? It’s hard to say whether they’re doing better or worse. Every group is very unique. It’s remarkable, actually, how unique every group is, and also the serendipity in the men that get brought together.
Yeah, like, there’s always this—it always blows my mind—as the days transpire, the mirrors that start to show up between the men. I take the guy whose daughter had committed suicide, and then the guy who had found a plan that his daughter had made about how she was going to commit suicide. And these two guys had never met before.
That’s incredibly rare—I’m trying to think if I’ve ever heard of the guys in the movement talk about their daughter having committed suicide, right? I don’t think I have.
And we’ve, you know—of all the thousands of guys in the movement—to have those two people. We had nine guys here. You know, keep it small. We had nine guys. So to have nine men out of the thousands of men that have come into the movement, and those two here at this point in time—but at this point in time in their lives as well, right?
And those mirrors just kept going back and forth between every guy. It’s just remarkable.there’s something bigger at play that’s brought these guys together at this time for a certain reason. And the plan for the breakthroughs that these guys had was just remarkable.
Gift 17:09
Yeah, they needed each other to hear something from the other, and it just kept bouncing off, and boom, boom. It was wild.
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Tim Matthews 18:10
To your point—how well it flowed—I think, not to steal your point, but that’s the thing that really stands out to me. Just the processes, the coaching, the journey the guys went on.
It was—yeah, we know some guys were a little bit more challenging. That’s okay. It’s to be expected. But overall, the journey that the guys went through and how seamless it was to get them to the end result was just—was beautiful.
Arthur 18:39
And also the fact that—I guess it’s part of that point—we had so little things go wrong. Everything went according to plan, right?
There were things that went awry, you know, as you would expect, doing something the first time. We dealt with it at that time pretty well, I thought, given the circumstances. But this time, there wasn’t anything major.
Gift 19:04
I think having more hands on deck definitely helped, you know. And that’s probably a tough thing, but maybe going forward, you have to try to get two volunteers.
Tim Matthews 19:13
I think the first one—there were so many tools to set up and to logistically sort out.I think getting that first one under the belt was a big win. In hindsight, looking back, it just meant we were so much more prepared.
And the lessons that we learned from the first one and the improvements that we could make. And to your point—you were in the first one—and the first one, I think, delivered a really good result.
Gift 19:36
It was amazing.I wouldn’t know. And I’ve said that before—the things that you said, little, little, little mistakes or whatever that, you know, you hadn’t planned for—we didn’t know. We had no idea on our side of it, you know? So that’s kind of cool.
Tim Matthews 19:48
Because it’s incredible, right? Because we continue to improve and to iterate.
Arthur 19:53
Deciding where it’s going to get to—because I think we aren’t even after this one. We’ve got to make improvements, you know?stuff that we saw—that we can make it better.
Tim Matthews 20:01
That was a lesson in life, right? Great, right? Every night at the end of the day—I love the improvements. I love that. And we still take solace from the wins. We celebrate the wins. We let the wins land.
And—how can we improve? So we’re not living in the gap with it, right? Not looking at ourselves from a place of criticism. Very much living in the gain, while at the same time, with excitement about how much better it can be.
Arthur 20:27
And I think that definitely translates to the guys’ experience in a big way. You know, even if the process doesn’t change, you know, obviously from the first one to this one, we moved faster, you know, more mules and all of that. But just the level of excellence I think that we can still bring to this is going to set this up—the next one—even better and make it even better.
Gift 20:47
And that’s the thing too. I think the more advanced the guys are, like you’re saying, that they had done a Reset and they’ve been in a while after The Alpha Reset , it just changes the dynamics of things. Because if they were fresh out of a Reset, they’re not there yet. They’re not ready.
Tim Matthews 21:00
No, they’re not ready. No. Who was it that said—I think it was Mark actually—same with like heart surgeons, you know, like metaphoric heart surgeons with these guys, which I loved, because the precision—the precision of a heart surgeon, right?we were doing very precise work with these guys. Every one of them needed a little bit something different, but the precision was so key, and we’re only able to get that level of precision because they’ve done the work that they’ve done with us already.
Arthur 21:31
And I think that’s the big difference between The Alpha Reset and this one. You know that The Alpha Reset just helps clear a lot of the stuff away, so the guy can see what the real issues are, which he can then work on here. Because most of the guys here would never have dealt with the issues they dealt with here without having cleared a lot of the stuff from The Alpha Reset . It propelled them along their journey. So now they can look at the real underlying issues and take them head-on.
Tim Matthews 22:02
It’s very different, right? Because coming to The Rising, there’s not typically a fire that they need to put out in their life, right? It’s coming out from a place of choice and excitement, whereas a Reset—typically there’s a fire that they need to put out in their life.they’re new to the movement. They still have that fire, be it in the marriage or otherwise, and they’ve got to get a hold of it really quickly, and they’ve got to put it out.
And The Alpha Reset is that quick damage control. Like, it does some great work to really clear the decks for the men and establish a really solid foundation. But it’s a blitz—gotta go—and we gotta fix these things, and now we gotta fix them quickly. And that’s why the guys often say the shifts that they get in four days, you know, are the shifts that they’ve been working years to try and get, right?
But coming to The Rising is a very different place to come from, because so many of the guys in the podcast and the testimonials were saying, “Hey, things were really good. I was good.” Yeah. “I was thinking, well, where else can I go from here? I’m good.” So it’s going to growth from that perspective—completely different from a reactive perspective, yeah, sure.
Gift 23:22
Yeah. I look at The Alpha Reset like healing the past, and The Rising is almost like your journey forward for the future. Like you’re trying to find your path, right? And I came in much the same. I was like, I don’t know. I guess I’m gonna find my next step. That’s what I was saying to myself, “I’m gonna find out my next step. I have no idea.” And I found it.
But I didn’t—how would I know? I just thought I was gonna go along, and, you know, I’m just doing pretty good coming into this, you know, The Rising when I did it. And man, I found it.
Arthur 23:50
And that’s the thing. Like, quite a few guys on this one came in, and they were doing brilliantly, right? And you would say, well, there’s nothing to fix here? But doing the work—what they uncovered, right?—it was unreal, you know? And stuff that they had to work on, but it wasn’t visible to them.
And what that means for them going back into their lives now is once again exciting, because they’ve dealt with stuff they didn’t think they needed to deal with anymore.
Other guys—like coming in—I don’t know. Like you said, “I don’t know what my next step is. Life’s good, you know, I think I’m okay.” And suddenly coming out of here with, like, a clear—pretty much clear—purpose or direction for them, those next steps.
Because some guys think, “Oh, you know, like you said, I’ve dealt with everything. I’m cool.” Well, what’s your next level? And there’s always the next level. And how do you uncover that next level without doing the work? Very difficult.
Gift 24:48
It’s like an awakening. And I think for the guys who are in The Brotherhood—who, there probably is a lot of them out there—that think, “Oh, I don’t really need that. I’m doing good right now.” Well, you’re going to cap yourself at doing good. Or, you know, you do want to do better, right? And I don’t think people realize that there’s that untapped part, right? And you just gotta pull that next layer off.
Tim Matthews 25:06
And the guys that choose to come to The Rising are probably the rarest men in the movement, because they’re choosing to grow from a place of pleasure. They’re already in a really good spot. And it’s one thing choosing to invest in their own growth, right, and join the movement—that already makes them rare. It’s another thing to invest in your growth for years and come into a Reset, and bro, that makes them even rarer, right? It’s an even rarer thing to then come to The Rising and choose to invest several days out of your life when things in your life are really good.
Yeah, right? Because I’ve spoken to a lot of guys that are thinking about coming, and they’re like, “You know, I’m good. I’m good.” Spoken to a few guys I’ve said, “You know, life’s really good, but I’m not gonna lie—good is the enemy of great.I know there’s even more for me,” and they prioritize it. And that guy, that kind of guy—that’s an incredibly rare person.
Gift 26:13
You know, it’s in Prague. One of the brothers—I was talking to him before he was gonna go into a hot seat—and I said, “Well, what are we gonna talk about tomorrow?” He says, “Well, you know, I don’t know. My relationship’s eight out of ten.” He goes, “So that’s good.” And I was like, I made a face at him. And he says, “Well, why are you making a face?” I said, “I’m just curious why you wouldn’t want it to be better than that.”
And I think that’s the point—is that there’s so many people out there that are like, “Everything’s good.” But if you’re not a ten out of ten—if you’re saying you’re an eight out of ten—you’ve got more growth. You have something else. Why are you sitting there in that and just thinking that’s okay? You know, I think we can all fall into that, because it’s just comfortable. It’s like, “Oh yeah, everything’s good,” and we’re comfortable. And, you know, that’s not me.
Tim Matthews 26:53
It’s not me. And if I’m a ten out of ten, then I’d probably argue that I’m playing too small.
Arthur 26:59
Yeah, ten out of ten—maybe you know you’re ten out of twenty, or what could be a twenty?
Tim Matthews 27:03
That’s what I’m saying. Yeah. I want to be chasing, right? I want to be playing to win. Because when I play to win, I feel the most alive. When I play to win, I’m the most energized, driven, excited, inspired, right?
That’s how I want to—for me, that’s how I want to live. It’s in alignment with how I see myself. It’s in alignment with my values. And I think I see some guys get a little bit comfortable and complacent, and they begin to take the foot off the gas. And I get it. You don’t need to go, you know, redline.
I’m not talking about redlining at all, quite frankly—I’m talking about getting into a rhythm of growth, right? But some guys, they start playing not to lose. Yet it’s been playing to win that has got them into this position of having great results in the first place. And then they just start to take this foot off the gas ever so slightly.
And that’s this very slippery slope? Because over several years, as you continue to do that, you know, the compounding effect of gradually, slowly taking your foot off the gas—it doesn’t mean you always have to be finding something wrong.
And look at the guys coming to The Rising this week. They came into it with everything already being really good. Yet they’re all so excited about what else might be possible.
Gift 28:25
Yeah, an interesting thing about what you’re just saying—I had just thought in my mind—you take your foot off the gas, and then all of a sudden, when you hit an incline, what happens? You’re struggling, right? So when you take your foot off the gas, and you think you’re coasting, everything’s good—then the incline comes, you got a problem, right?
Arthur 28:41
Yeah. I think as humans, like, we need to feel like we are making progress in all areas of our life. Progress isn’t just taking action. Progress is actually making changes, right? Moving forward, as you say—expanding what we are capable of. And the only way you can do that is by not doing more, but by going deeper. This is what we talk about in Inner Circle a lot. This is like, how do you go deeper so that you can show up more, you know, and achieve more—but not the busy more, the authentic more.
Tim Matthews 29:11
Yeah. One piece of advice you’d give a guy listening to this—he’s been in the movement for a while, he knows his tattoo, he knows, right, The Rising exists—but he’s like, “I don’t know, I’m good. Just going to be another Alpha Reset. It’s going to be a revision of the Alpha Reset. I’ve done that, been there. I’m good. You know, maybe I’ll go sometime in the future.” What advice would you give him?
Arthur 29:35
If you’re a human being, there’s always next levels to go to. Don’t let the enemy—what’s the expression—be the enemy of great. Good be the enemy of great. And there’s something even better out there for you if you’re prepared to do the work.
Gift 29:52
Yeah, I think you just got to go in on yourself. I mean, people have routines and things that they do for themselves. This is something you’re doing for yourself that’s a next-level thing. And, you know, you just got to keep moving forward. I don’t believe in sitting still. And I know the brothers in The Brotherhood—I don’t believe they believe that either. So I think they just have to realize, all right, it’s just another layer I’m peeling off. I gotta go further, and I gotta go deeper and move up, you know, because it’s just untapped potential. I think you know exactly that.
Tim Matthews 30:21
I think the advice I’d give is—would you expect your business to continue to grow without investing in it? The answer is no, right? And the reality is, you’re never going to get more than you can handle. But if you can’t handle very much because your capacity isn’t big enough—be it for pleasure, joy, money, sex, whatever it may be—then you gotta increase that capacity. And the only way you’re going to do that is by continuing to go deep on yourself. It’s not about a mile wide, inch deep—it’s about an inch wide, a mile deep. And there’s depths within you that you can continue to go to and access so much you don’t know about yourself, right?
Yeah, and that’s exciting for me. Like, what more? What else is there? It doesn’t come from a place of, “I’m broken, there’s something wrong with me.” It comes from a place of excitement, of “Holy crap, what else can I discover about myself? And how good can life get?” I think it’s so easy for the guys to not view it in that way and think, “Okay, I’m good, I’m done.” Yeah. They’d never do that with their business. They’d never do it with their business. They’d keep on investing into it, focusing on it, and going and going and going. And I’d love them to apply just a little bit of that to themselves.
Gift 31:40
And I think there’s a piece of it that—even though they’ve done the work and they think they’re done with something, like, “Oh yeah, well, I already dealt with that”—you’ll find, well, there’s a little more piece of it in there, and you have to re-deal with it. Like I found, you know. That’s the way—I thought I was over that. No. That’s why you have to keep moving forward.
Tim Matthews 31:57
I agree. So, as we like to say here, guys, at a moment of insight—take massive action. We’ll see you next time on The Powerful Man Show.
