Episode #970
Ever looked around at your life—good income, solid marriage, maybe even some investment wins—and still felt totally disconnected?
You’re not alone.
A lot of high-performing men find themselves here. On paper, life checks all the boxes… but something feels off. That quiet frustration grows, and before long, you’re stuck in your head, spinning your wheels, and silently wondering, “Is this it?”
In this episode, Arthur Magoulianiti shares his raw and real journey from engineer to successful property investor to personal growth junkie—only to find himself lost and lacking purpose.
He opens up about the internal struggle he faced, the toll it took on his marriage, and the powerful transformation that finally pulled him out of the fog.
You’ll hear:
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What “being lost” really feels like (and why logic alone won’t fix it)
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Why consuming more books, podcasts, and motivation might be making it worse
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The surprising moment Arthur realized how much he had been judging himself
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How men unknowingly carry emotional weight that drains them
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What actually works when you’re ready to reconnect with purpose, power, and passion
In this episode, you’ll learn how the feeling of being “stuck” isn’t a personal flaw—it’s a sign that you’ve outgrown where you are. Arthur’s story and lessons provide a roadmap for any man ready to shift from confusion to clarity, from burnout to energized purpose.
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Transcription
Arthur 0:00
Every guy listening here wants to fix the problem today, right? Well, you know, you can read another 12 books—one a month—and you can do all of that, and it’s not going to bring you any closer. It’s probably going to confuse you even more, because you’re going to have so many different voices in your head now that are not necessarily aligned with who you are and what you need in that moment. Whereas, obviously, with what we do, we’ve worked this out, and it’s worked for us.
Tim Matthews 0:40
Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of The Powerful Man Show. I’m joined again with an amazing guest, Mr. Arthur Magoulianiti, one of our master coaches, and we partner with him on one of the programs in TPM as well. So Magoo, let’s roll. Let’s turn back the clock. Let’s roll back the years. Let’s do it. Is it seven years?
Arthur 1:07
Must be close to eight by now. Seven, seven and a half, eight years.
Tim Matthews 1:11
So describe to me where you were prior to coming into the then The Activation Method, which was the Alpha Reset. And we’re calling it now the Ascension Blueprint as we re-release it and open the doors again. But describe it—really curious—because we have a lot of guys who’ve been in the movement for several years, listen to this show, and I’m really curious whether they’ve heard this—really heard where you were at.
Arthur 1:49
Okay, so just before I came in—and depends on how far you want to go back—
Tim Matthews 1:58
I’ll let you go.
Arthur 2:01
Just before I came into TPM, we had recently moved—Penny and I—from the UK. We had moved to Cyprus, and I was kind of kicking off my third career. So for those of you that don’t know, I was an electrical engineer. I started engineering way back when, did about five, seven years of that, then decided I wanted to go into my own thing and make some money. Got into property, did pretty well with that.
And then, just—you know, well, there were a couple of things that happened. One was I got married. Two was 2008 and the capital crunch. So that put a bit of a kibosh on the investing, although we had the portfolio, so that was cool. But it gave me a lot of time to figure out, “Okay, now what?” and space to decide what I do now with my life.
Of course, I’d done personal development. I’d been in the personal development field since I was 26, and I loved going around the world, learning from a lot of great teachers out there. I felt that I had accumulated a bit of knowledge. I knew a thing or two, and I thought, “Okay, maybe it’s time to give back.”
I was also looking for something closer to home because I had done a lot of work with people in the States, and it was a lot of traveling back and forth. I just thought, “Okay, it’s costing a bit too much. I’m away from home too much.” Actually, that’s funny—that’s kind of full circle again with all the TPM travel. But it got me thinking, “Okay, I need to find a network of guys closer to home.”
And as it happens, whose mug came up at the same time? That sport was you. And I think you had just finished the actual—actually the first Alpha Reset. I think I saw your video. I’d probably been following you for a little while, and probably that was the catalyst. I thought, “Okay, seems like they’re doing some good stuff,” and the fact that it was something local—UK was a lot closer to Cyprus than the States. That’s when I reached out.
Where I was, though—to answer your question—was I was pretty lost at that moment, right at that time. Because I thought I had achieved everything I wanted to—income was okay, assets were okay, family was okay—but I just didn’t feel connected to it. I just felt like I was going through the motions.
And then I got into my head about, “Okay, what am I going to do?” I wanted to get into coaching and give back, but I just didn’t know who I wanted to coach. And because—as we were talking before—I was in my head, and I wasn’t aligned with what it was I really wanted to do and who I wanted to help. And that’s when I reached out.
So there were a couple of reasons why I reached out to you, and I remember having that conversation with you. It was in Prague—I think New Year’s—and yeah, that’s when I came aboard.
Tim Matthews 5:20
I remember the conversation.
Arthur 5:26
I guess the key point was: I thought I knew what I wanted to do, I wasn’t clear on who I wanted to help. I also was looking for community, because I didn’t have that in Cyprus. A lot of my close friends were all over the world from my travels. Like, you know, obviously, I started in South Africa and had great friends in South Africa—a little bit far. Great friends in Greece—a little bit far. Great friends in the States—a little bit far. So just having that brotherhood, that community of guys around, was lacking. And so that’s what I was looking for as well. So there were three, four reasons that it just seemed to be the right move at that time.
Tim Matthews 6:09
Let’s touch on some great points. So let’s touch on the feeling lost piece. What was that like?
Arthur 6:15
It was awful. Because I was going round and round in my head, right? And trying to find a solution. This is what we say to the guys now, and looking back it’s like—obvious.
A lot of the times when we’re trying to find the answers in our head—they’re not there, right? That’s because we’re looking in the wrong place for those answers. If you had the answers in your head, you’d find them, because you’ve done enough digging in your head. But all we tend to do is create, like, a rut. You know, like a car going around a circuit, just getting deeper and deeper into that rut, trying to search for the answer.
“It’s gotta be here. I’m gonna think of the answer. I’m gonna think of the answer. I’m gonna think of the answer…” But every time you try to think of the answer and not come up with it, then you get, like, bogged down even more. And that’s where I was. I was trying to think my way through it instead of feel my way through it and so joined The Activation Method, because that was the entry point, obviously, with TPM,
Tim Matthews 7:18
Speak to that more though, because the reason why I want to drill down on this a bit more is because there’ll be guys listening right now, right, who resonate with what you were saying. Either they resonate because that’s where they are right now, right, or they resonate because that’s where they were. Either way, it’s good for us to drill down a little bit more on that feeling—lost, it being awful—and painting a picture of what that was like. Because now, look, we know we’ve got something that can help those guys, right? It’s kind of called the Ascension Blueprint. We know it can help them. However, unless they know that they’re in the right place because of us helping a certain type of guy, they may not come through the Alpha Reset, right?
We need them to come through it. Transparently, we need you to come through it. And the reason why is because we have a mission of saving the kids by saving the fathers first, right? We know the transformation that is available to a man should he choose to do the work. In order for him to choose to do that, he’s got to believe that he’s in the right place. And oftentimes, I think we could do a better job of letting the guys really know that, hey, we were there. This isn’t an idea that we put together over a weekend two months ago. This is something we’ve been doing for eight or nine years. We’ve done it with men from all over the world, and there’s a predictable, consistent, reliable result for the guy that chooses to do the work.
And again, this is the first time we’re actually opening the doors to the public for this particular program in seven years. So I really want to speak to the guy that’s out there that’s feeling that way—that’s feeling lost, that’s making good money, he has everything on paper that really tells him he should be happy—but he isn’t. He feels disconnected from the entire thing. He’s ashamed of admitting that because he feels guilty, because he should be enjoying it. He’s got everything he ever thought he—well, everything he ever asked for, yeah, but he just doesn’t enjoy it. And the guilt from that, and the shame from that, and the isolation that then occurs with that—because very few people can relate to that guy, yeah, right? And it’s incredibly tough. It’s incredibly lonely.
Arthur 10:00
It’s incredibly tough and lonely for the guy, and it’s also really frustrating for the partner, right? Because I remember spinning the same story to Penelope, like, “What am I going to do? What am I going to do? What am I going to do? I don’t know what I want to do. You know, I can do anything, but I don’t know what it is.” And just that whole—and even as I said that now, it just makes me sick, because I remember how many times I asked that same question, right, over and over. And it overflowed into the relationship because now you’ve got this issue, right? You’ve got this disconnection within yourself—and that’s what it was—a disconnection within myself.
Yeah, like logically, everything looks good. Logically, I can make my way through the day and do what I need to do, but I wasn’t feeling it. And I didn’t have that purposeful, authentic connection to what I really wanted to do and what would excite me and give me purpose and meaning. And I think that is missing for a lot of guys. That is exactly what was missing with me. And there was Penelope—she got tired of hearing me moan and ask me the question, you know, she got tired of me just being in that state, which was obviously a low energetic state. And yeah, it’s like living in the gray. It’s like nothing excites you because you’ve got yourself in a corner now, and you really need somebody to help you get out of the corner. It’s like a helping hand to pull you out of the box that you’ve sort of got yourself caught up in.
And we call it the tunnel, right? It’s a tunnel, and the only thing that can get you through that tunnel is personal development, or personal growth through personal development. And that’s been—obviously—the answer for me, as it is for the guys that come through our programs and who, you know, work on themselves.
Tim Matthews 11:59
Yeah, I want to highlight something, because there’s a guy listening to that. I’ve got to imagine that if he hears, “Okay, I just need personal development and personal growth,” what I don’t want him to do is for him to listen to this and move on to the next podcast, and the next podcast, thinking that all he’s doing is getting personal development and growth when he isn’t. Because more—he doesn’t need motivation. He doesn’t have a motivation—I can’t imagine you had a motivation problem back then, right?
Arthur
Or a knowledge problem.
Tim Matthews
Or a knowledge problem, yeah, exactly. Typically, it’s not more motivation or more knowledge. It’s not more—it’s actually less. And it’s about getting an insight—being able to look at your problem very differently by having a proven system and a guide—someone to guide you through it. Because otherwise, more motivation is just going to get you more of what you’ve got. It’s like kind of spinning your wheels in the snow. You just dig it deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper.
Arthur 13:02
So we were on The Alpha Reset this week. We spoke about that previously, and one of the guys there can tell you any book, all right, for any problem. All right, read this book, read that book, read that book, right? So it he had all the knowledge, and yet he was disconnected. He had lost his passion, his purpose, and and so it’s not a it’s not a question of more into the head, right? I’m gonna go say it again. It’s more into the body, into the heart, into into getting aligned again through the process that obviously we have honed by now with the 1000s of guys that we’ve worked with to make it effective in a short period of time. And that’s and that’s what you want. You know, every guy listening here wants to fix the problem today, right? Well, you know you can read another 12 books, one a month, and you can do all of that, and he’s not going to bring you any closer. It’s probably it’s probably going to confuse you even more, because you can have so many different voices in your head now that are not necessarily aligned with who you are and what you need in that moment, whereas, obviously with what we do, we’ve worked this out, and it’s worked for us.
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Tim Matthews 15:16
I agree. Okay, so let’s talk about your reset, so we know where you were before. What do you think was your biggest takeaway or shift that occurred for you, for the reset?
Arthur 15:33
Man, there were a lot and the iron was I? I thought I’d done quite a bit of work.
Tim Matthews 15:39
I remember you arrived at the reset. You did not want to be there, like, What the hell is this?
Arthur 15:47
they teach you so much.
Tim Matthews 15:53
Sorry. Your demeanor was so resistant on that day zero. So funny looking back,
Arthur 15:58
and I remember that. I mean, even The Activation Method was just like, What am I doing here? I’m not sure I’ve been long here. Blah, blah, blah. Anyway, takeaways. It was, I think the big one was realizing how much I had put myself down, how much I had suppressed my emotion number one, how much I had judged myself. I’m just trying to think of the processes. I think pretty much every process on day two, just, you know, had a major effect on me, impact I remember. And as the day went on, it was just like it was just shedding stuff that I’ve been carrying that I didn’t even realize I had been carrying, that had kept me, like, contained, right, and restricted and limited, and so just realizing, well, I’m carrying that, and then having the ability to just go and then, yeah, I mean, I felt energy through my body twice In my life, right? That was the second time, just like energy coasting through my body. And that was wild.
Tim Matthews 17:28
Describe to the guys what you mean by energy. Could it hurt? I think they might be listening, thinking you mean like energy, like when you feel like you’ve got energy to move around—and it’s different, right?
Arthur 17:39
I felt like electricity in my hands, but yeah, right, like a superhero-type thing, you know? If I had to point my fingers, I’d probably zap someone. But that was for me. It was like, by releasing everything that I released, I think my body was just saying, “Now we can work here. Now we can move things around. Now everything’s firing on all cylinders,” right? So yeah, but I had to get rid of a lot of stuff that I’d been carrying, and as I say, part of it I didn’t even know that I was carrying. And so I guess I realized how powerful I really am without all that crap blocking me.
Tim Matthews 18:23
I love the quote from Michelangelo, who was asked, “Hey, how did you create the Statue of David?” You’ve heard me say this before. His response was, “I just chipped away everything that wasn’t him.” I love that. It’s such a great metaphor, right? Because I know I did—it sounds like you did as well—and a lot of the guys that come through the Reset, we take on so much baggage throughout life, so unnecessarily. We don’t even realize, and we don’t need to, yeah, right?
We take on so much from other people, whether it’s in childhood, whether it’s in adulthood, whatever it may be. And a lot of the guys that we work with are such honorable men—they have such a desire to want to provide and protect and do the right thing, do the right thing and serve the people they love—that unknowingly, they end up taking on their problems. And unknowingly, they often become a people pleaser as well, which puts them in this terrible bind of self-sacrifice, which is totally unsustainable, which often leads to them feeling incredibly burnt out, numbed out. They don’t have a clue how to deal with it, and then they feel disconnected, like you were saying. And that’s when the guilt sets in, and the shame sets in. And they are not armed with the tools to communicate what’s going on. Also, they don’t feel comfortable communicating what’s going on.
Because I think guys know as well, there’s something primal inside of them that holds them back from wanting to say to their partner, wife, whatever: “I’m scared. I’m terrified. I’m lost. I’m this.” So obviously, I know with you, with Penny, you just kind of, “What am I going to do? What am I going to do?” But underneath it, there was a real fear there, right?
Arthur
Yeah.
Tim Matthews
There was a real emotion. We don’t know what to do with that. We don’t have a clue what it is. It just feels so alien. And for guys like you and I—and the guys we work with—we’re so used to being able to solve a problem, yeah. And when we can’t figure this out, it can become so frustrating and all-consuming—all-consuming—and then it can start to really rock our confidence and create self-doubt. And again, it just fuels this cycle of guilt and shame.
Arthur 20:59
And it’s also interesting—and once again, this happened on the last Alpha Reset—one of the guys said, “Well, my past wasn’t so bad, you know, all the time, and I shouldn’t have to complain. I shouldn’t have any issues. I don’t know…” And I think there’s a lot of guys in that like, “Oh, I should be better because I had a good life,” quote unquote. Everyone got hurt, all right? Even if you had a good life, right? You got hurt. You came up, you created stories, you’ve taken on burdens. And maybe because you’ve had a good life, you’ve maybe taken on more than you should, right? Because you think you want to give back more—I don’t know. But every guy is carrying some level of burden. And so don’t compare yourself to any other guy. You might know a friend who’s gone through a lot more and think like, “Why should I have an issue?” Well, trust me, you’ve got stuff to work on, like everyone else does. And you are also impacted by everything we’re talking about, right?
Tim Matthews 22:02
Now I’m not a big fan of the whole—how do I say this? There’s a big hype around trauma, yeah, right? Trauma is a bit of a buzzword, right, in our past couple of years. And I know when I didn’t understand what it meant by trauma, I’d push it away. “I never experienced trauma,” quote unquote. But by definition, all that trauma is, is when we go through an experience—as a kid or even as an adult, right—and the arousal curve within the nervous system kicks off, goes up, and we don’t know how to cope with it because the feelings are too intense, that we then shut down. And we don’t give our body the ability for the arousal loop to complete its curve. So instead of it getting aroused and coming back down like it normally would—and it would come back down through the processing, so whatever that processing may look like, crying, acting out, whatever—I don’t know. As a kid, there’s tons of ways it could complete. It’s almost like we can get stuck in time. Not physically, because physically we age and we grow up and become men and all this stuff, but emotionally, neurologically, our emotional and nervous systems can literally get stuck in time, yeah?
And one of the—it’s getting a little bit technical right now—but one of the ways a Reset works so well is it gives the men the opportunity—they don’t know this, obviously, when they’re going through this—but it gives the opportunity for that arousal curve to completely cycle. And when they do, that’s when they change color, and they’re relaxed, and the energy shifts, and everything just returns to center. And they just—the look on their face when they sit on that sofa on day two, after—they’re only halfway through the day, yeah? Like it’s just—I just love it.
Arthur 24:10
Well, just on that point, if we look at animals, right? When they get stressed, they’ve got a built-in way of de-stressing themselves, and usually it’s shaking, right? If you see an antelope that’s been chased by a lion or something and gets away, it’ll shake itself when it’s safe—when it feels safe—to release that stress. As humans, we don’t have that, right? And so we need—if we haven’t dealt with whatever level of trauma, right, whatever we’ve stored in the body—we need a way to get it out. And if you haven’t done that for like most of your years, you can have a lot of energy stored up that needs to be released. That’s holding you back.
Tim Matthews 24:57
I was gonna say, so for you then—after the Reset—so, you stated where you were before. You’ve touched on some of the realizations you had during. What was different after?
Arthur 25:09
I just felt I was connected with myself again. I just felt like I was in the right place in my life. I had more clarity about what it was I wanted to do. I just felt freer and more myself, right? Whereas before, I just felt like, “I’m not myself. I don’t know why, but I’m not myself.” And the amazing thing doing this work is that it’s just got more and more and more and more, you know? Because we’re obviously in the conversation every day with guys and all that, and we continue our own work. We just get to a stage where we’re just getting deeper and deeper and deeper into who we really are—and realizing that, hell, we can be pretty powerful.
Tim Matthews
Limitless.
Arthur
And limitless, yeah, that’s it. And so yeah, for me, it was just really connecting with that strength, that power, that confidence, and just that purpose as well—to, okay, now I’m clear on what it is I want to do and how I want to do it.
Tim Matthews 26:17
I love that. So what advice would you give to somebody who—we call it in the program—the Ascension Blueprint includes the Alpha Reset. What advice would you give to somebody who’s considering joining? They’re in a similar spot to where you were. They’re on the fence. What advice would you give?
Arthur 26:40
Well, it’s easy to say, “You owe it to yourself to do it.” But there is very little out there that can do what we do, in the way that we do it, that’s going to give you the result that you’re looking for in the shortest possible time, right—while doing it right.
Tim Matthews 26:59
Without doing psychedelics.
Arthur 27:00
Yeah. And so why go chasing anything else, trying to figure it out, when right here in front of you, there is something that we have proven to work? It’s worked on myself, worked on hundreds—if not thousands—of guys already. And you don’t have to suffer anymore, right? I mean, that—that was for me. I was suffering, right? And I know there are millions of guys out there—literally millions of guys—who are suffering. And it doesn’t have to be that way, you know? There’s—I don’t want to say an easy and quick fix, because it sounds like it’s, you know—but there is a fix out there. And it’s authentic. It’s real. It works. And it’s going to work for you. Yeah, it’s going to work for you.
Tim Matthews 27:54
Providing you do the work.
Arthur 27:57
Well, of course, yes. You’ve got to do your own press-ups. You know, we’ll show you how. We’ll support you, and you know, we’ll kick your backside if you need it—and most guys do. But it all comes from love, you know, and knowing that there’s much more in you. And you know it yourself. We don’t have to tell you. But we can see it, whereas you might have lost sight of it.
Tim Matthews 28:23
So guys, as Dougie Fresh likes to say, in the moment of insight, take massive action. You’ve heard it from an incredible man—he’s been in the movement now for eight years or so. He’s coached hundreds of men through the same process. You’ve heard about the impact it’s had on his life. So if you are curious and you want to find out more about the Ascension Blueprint, then just type the word ascend and send it across to VIP@thepowerfulman.com. That’s ascend to VIP@thepowerfulman.com. We’ll see you next time on The Powerful Man Show.
